The Power of Positive Self-Talk

By Jessica Lambert (IG @JessicaVibez)

Inspired by Season 1, Episode 30 – Jessie’s World Podcast.

“Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love”.

~ Brene Brown

It’s okay to love yourself…

Loving yourself helps fill you up so you can

pour blessings onto others. Self-love is

a super power you should be proud of.

Remember AYAA – Affirm Your Awesome Always! xoxo Jessica Vibez

If you are a member of Blessed Vibez, then you are an active participant in achieving your personal and professional success goals – and that is amazing.

However, just like going to the gym, and then eating Hot Cheetos afterwards, we need to make sure we do not inadvertently undo the great work we do with our Blessed Vibez consultants, courses, and community. We need to make sure we are also right on the INSIDE.

Positive Self Talk is a habit you can deliberately develop to help accelerate your success as you work towards your goals.

To achieve our mission for you – which is to assist you in being your best – we need you to constantly remind yourself that YOU ARE THE BEST…do you know why??? Because you are! Truly!

If you don’t believe it, that’s okay, it will change…walk with us caterpillar for you will soon be a butterfly!

Positive self-talk has more power over your life experiences than most realize.

Most people do not go through life without experiencing something that negatively impacts how we view ourselves and our capabilities. These experiences can sometimes seep into our subconscious and really damage our relationship with self. Negative self-talk is a symptom of just that.

Imagine a world where you expect the best outcome everywhere you go; with everything you do – wouldn’t that be lovely. The power of positive self-talk can help get you there.

Let’s start replacing old damaging messages with new encouraging, supportive, and uplifting messages.

Today we are going to dive deep into the types of conversations we have with ourselves and how those conversations manifest in the world – shaping our life for better or for worse.

“The inner speech, your thoughts, can cause you to be rich or poor, loved or unloved, happy or unhappy, attractive or unattractive, powerful or weak.”     

~ Ralph Charell

Happiness is a choice! Be happy.

In order to embrace the life-giving life hack that is positive self-talk, you must first retire the mighty sword in your mind that keeps cutting down your dreams and YES I am referring to negative self-talk – it must stop.

The impact of negative self-talk sustained over a period includes:

• Increased stress – and we know stress leads to disease
• Increased mental health issues
• Increased physical health issues
• Low self-esteem
• Inability to see solutions and opportunities
• Being stuck in victim mentality
• Self-harm
• Depression
• Repeating the cycle with others and more

You owe it to yourself to seek support if you have endured abusive and or toxic situations. You also owe it to yourself to stop speaking to yourself in a way that is unkind, unforgiving, unloving, and life limiting – trust me when I tell you that you deserve more and TODAY I want you to fully commit to giving yourself more!

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserves your love and affection.”

~ Buddah

“Be kind to you… it’s the least you can do! Others love you, can you love you too? When hurting ourselves, we hurt everyone else. Be kind and see, you will also be happy. Love awaits, it’s right there within. Be kind, I promise, it will brighten your grin!”

~ Be Kind by Jessica Vibez

How to Change:

What if I said change was as easy as 1, 2, 3… okay, it’s not easy – but it does take three initial steps:

1. Acknowledgement – that in many cases, negative self-talk comes from childhood or toxic situations.
2. No Harm Vow – knowing the impact that toxicity has had on us, we must vow to watch our own tongue so as to not cause this type of harm to others intentionally or unintentionally.
3. Self-Love – we have agreed to press STOP on our own internal recording of negative self-talk and replace it with a much kinder voice of positive affirmations.

So – how do we get this new recording that will change our lives…

We create it!

Changing the tape to positive self-talk allows you to add good energy into your life, lift yourself up, be happy, productive, focused, and self-assured.

The best part of positive self-talk is not only the fact that it can improve your health, your appearance, your relationships, your finances, and your overall quality of life – but also that it really does create a process by which you become your own best friend and that is such an amazing phenomenon because – wherever you go, there you are!

“Your positive investment in the fabric of who you are will become the longest living and self-serving investment you can make.”

~ Jessica Lambert

Your investment in you ultimately improves who you are as a person. It also allows you to improve your service to others. Therefore, this investment in self is the greatest gift you can give to the world, and it is the greatest path you can take in life when aspiring to leave a lasting legacy you can be proud of.

You have heard of someone ‘spiraling’ in a bad way… well positive self-talk starts to change the direction of that spiral so that you can spiral UP in a positive way instead of down and out.

“I would venture to say that the conversations you have with yourself, are the most important conversations you will ever have in your life.”

~ Jessica Lambert

Taking that into consideration – and considering that most people do not pay too much attention to what they say to themselves, many of us are on a plane flying on auto-pilot to the destination pre-set by former messages from, and experiences with, others. Imagine automatically allowing people who hurt you in the past to set the course for the rest of your life? That is terrifying. In a competitive world, the person who pays attention to the autopilot within and takes control of their inner dialogue will achieve much more deliberate results than anyone else. This is the success most of the world craves, and you, right now in this moment, have access to and understand. You can change right now and everything else will change to – it all starts with how you speak to you!

TODAY, I am imploring you to take back your plane. Get in that cockpit and aim your plane to the destination you always wanted to arrive at.

You may say to yourself “but I don’t know HOW to fly this metaphoric plane” – to that I say, hello Negative Self Talk – I wondered when you would try to creep in.

Worry not – I have installed an eject button on the plane so that every time Negative Self Talk shows up we just press the button and Whoo-Shaaa – it’s gone!

You absolutely CAN fly this plane to the exact destination that you desire… all you have to do is visualize where you want to go, then insert the tape that will provide you the step-by-step instructions, and affirmations, that you need to get there.

VISUALIZATION

DREAM BIG!

Before we can change the self-sabotaging negative tape that you have been hearing most of your life, we need to consider which is the best tape to switch it to.

What messages best align with your true goals, which tape will help you to become your best possible self?

This question inevitably leads to another question – which is, WHAT ARE YOUR GOALS….

Think about the times you have felt your best in life.

For me, for example, I always feel at home when I am in water, near water, and especially when I am swimming. I feel amazing, calm, peaceful, light, happy. That feeling of swimming becomes my baseline for what feels right and good in my life.

What feels right and good in your life?

As you start to connect with that vision, dwell on and in that good feeling. Set that feeling as the baseline of what feels good in your life. This helps you identify other great feelings – for example, I was able to realize that when I work in the music, and in self-help and business development industries I feel very much like I do when I am in a pool.

I understand my calling is to help people improve their personal and professional lives, and to help Indie Recording Artists achieve success. My baseline, the pool, helped me connect to my calling in life. It’s a feeling. When you get your baseline feeling, you have struck gold. Now, you live with purpose like never before.

I was able to identify the right fields for me, because when I am working in those areas, I feel like I am swimming.

I also know that when I eat well, go to the gym, go for walks, and spend time with my son, and when I am spending time with God, I feel my very best – on tops of the world in fact. So, I understand that I need to put aside time for these things in my life.

Anything that will take away from feeling happy, healthy, from being with God and with my son, and from achieving success in my chosen professions is something I cannot allow in my life.

This includes negative self-talk.

On the flip side, anything that amplifies these beautiful blessings in my life – I want more of! This includes positive self-talk; in fact, I realize positive self-talk is a very vital piece of the puzzle that is achieving success, health, wealth, great habits, great relationships, true lasting legacy, and soul enrichment in my life, and thus it becomes an area I realize I must deliberately focus on every day.

When you consider your baseline, what goals do you have for your life?

What lifestyle, habits, relationships, health level, impact do you want to achieve while alive?

Your self-talk should boost those goals and keep you focused on them, while also validating you exactly where you are – this is real work we are doing here folks and it is no joke.

Take a moment to jot down your goals

You may also say something as tangible as launch my company and start earning $10,000 a day starting this week.

• Hire a Blessed Vibez Consultant to help me create a strategic plan.
• Write my new tape and say positive affirmations to myself 3 times a day.
• Eat clean and walk every day.

Whatever your goals, they should be steps that put you on the path to achieving the life you envision when you consider ultimately where you want to be and how you want to live.

CHALLENGE

Your Voice Has POWER!

Now that you have a strong grasp on your goals and what it is you really want, CREATE  the tape that supports those goals.

For example, if your tape usually says – one more Netflix show at night, and your goal is better and longer sleep, then your tape needs to change to “I am going to do my bedtime routine early, then read and unwind, and when it’s time I will put down by book and sleep.” Knowing that screen time right before sleep impacts your REM and that it also encourages you to stay up, this new tape will help you create a healthier habit that aligns with your goals.

Now, much like affirmations, you need to write the messages on your new tape down so that you can repeat them every morning, afternoon, evening – as many times as you need. In fact, every time a negative message comes up that threatens to sabotage your clearly stated goals, you use your positive message to press eject and rid your plane of that sabotaging energy. This is not a game, this is your life, and if something is not there to improve you – it’s gone!

Let’s say your goal is to make more money, but when you sit to develop your business your old tape says “go get a snack” or “call a friend” or “have a drink” or “have a nap” or “watch tv” or anything that is meant to distract you from your true calling – you already know, you are to quickly press the eject button and replace that tape with “I love working on my business, I am so excited to provide such a valuable service to people. I know that my business is going to be such a great success that I cannot waste not even a minute of time, the sooner I start it the sooner I can fully live my calling and earn the money that provides me the life I desire and deserve.” Yesssss 😊,  doesn’t that feel sooooo much nicer than the deadly sin that sloth will try and entice you to engage in. All distractions are meant to pull you from your purpose. Do not even give them a thought – hit eject, hit eject and hit it fast. Then press play on affirmative messages and enjoy a healthy happy focused and productive day.

A Note on Business

You Have A Winning Hand… Use It to WIN!

Positive self-talk is critical to business success. I have worked with a lot of entrepreneurs and startup companies; one of the number one killers of dreams and great ideas is negative self-talk. When a dream is in its infancy you need to love it, nurture it, and protect it. Negative self-talk is one of the fastest ways to kill your dreams and a bright future.

However, positive self-talk is a very powerful thing, and offers a strong competitive advantage in business. When you believe in your business, your product, your service – when you believe in the value you add to people’s lives then everyone else will believe you too. People buy from who they trust, and who they like; and there is not much that seems more trust worthy and likable than confidence. Press play on your positive self-talk tape and watch your dreams turn into your reality – then DM me @JessicaVibez on Instagram and tell me that this article changed your life – because I know it will. For the full episode and more fun tips listen to Jessie’s World podcast on all podcast platforms – this particular article comes from Season 1, Episode 30.  Remember, you are awesome, you are capable, you have a lot of value to offer the world, and now – you have a secret super power to catapult you to success, enjoy!

Jessica Lambert is Blessed Vibez CEO and a Personal and Business Development Specialist. For help developing your success plan contact us to book an appointment with Jessica or another Blessed Vibez consultants. We help your be your best!